These are the people who show up out of the blue, say during special occasions in your life, because they know those are the times you might be more vulnerable and accepting of the crap they’re peddling. When asked or confronted about why they rarely speak to you, they utilize the excuse that they are “so busy working all the time, and just don’t have time to talk ,” but in the same breath give details on how they have screwed a married man and feel no guilt over it.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I fully believe in giving without expecting anything in return, but in any kind of relationship there is a natural give and take. If it’s all give on one end and all take on the other, there’s no balance. Eventually, the person on the giving end will burn out. There becomes little to no value to the relationship for the person giving. It will wear on them and in the end, the person they once cared deeply for is nothing more than a nuisance that causes them inconceivable pain.
I won’t lie. It’s gonna hurt like hell to expunge them from your life. You’ve invested a lot of time and effort into that relationship, but if the friendship is one-sided, than it really isn’t worth holding on to, is it? Think about yourself. Think about the qualities you bring to a friendship. Maybe you’re smart or funny. It’s possible you have great fashion sense or are spatially inclined. You might be a great listener or excellent with advice. There are a number of values that you possess that someone else, who is more deserving, would love to have in a friend. Don’t continue to hang on to a friendship that only hurts you. You’re worth more than being a friend of convenience. You’re worth feeling important.
Just remember, friendship is supposed to be fluid. Communication is key. And actions speak louder than words. So, don’t fret over the FoC. There’s too many great people in this world who will accept your friendship with open arms and reciprocate. I guarantee it.